Here’s the thing: This surplus of women is not just “perceived” but very, very real.
As I argue in “DATE-ONOMICS: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” the college and post-college hookup culture is a byproduct, not of Tinder or Facebook (another target of modern scolds), but of shifting demographics among the college-educated.
Guys who have no idea how fun I am in bed and out of it because they've automatically ruled me out.
When Peter and I were in mediation discussing alimony, he brought up remarriage ending my alimony and the mediator and I just sort of exchanged a look.
Out of all the people you could possibly date, see about the first 37%, and then settle for the first person after that who's better than the ones you saw before (or wait for the very last one if such a person doesn't turn up). You don't want to go for the very first person who comes along, even if they are great, because someone better might turn up later. Either way, we assume there’s a pool of people out there from which you are choosing.
In 2012, 34 percent more women than men graduated from American colleges, and the U. Department of Education expects this gap to reach 47 percent by 2023.
He, in turn, is baffled by her unwillingness to carry on a casual affair. “A house of prostitution on wheels” was how one judge described it at the time.
Given the shortage of young men in post-World War I Europe — 10 million soldiers died and 20 million were wounded, many grievously — Bernard wonders why any bachelor would want to settle down. Today’s hookup culture does have one big thing in common with the ’20s flapper generation, and that is demographics.
There are too many women and they’re all too easy to make it worthwhile.” I was reminded of this while reading Vanity Fair’s much-publicized piece, “Tinder and the Dating Apocalypse,” which naively blames today’s “hookup culture” on the popularity of a three-year-old dating app.
In the Vanity Fair article, David Buss, a University of Texas psychology professor, says that apps like Tinder contribute to “a perceived surplus of women,” among straight men, which in turn leads to more hookups and fewer traditional relationships.